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May 23rd, 2014 at 9:26 am

Reflections on 15 Years of Marriage

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Yesterday was my anniversary…my husband and I have been married for 15 years. When I think back to all the things we have done and experienced in that time, I am amazed. We have grown so much since then, had two children, battled cancer, purchased a house, and so much more. We wanted to share some advice with you from things we have learned along the way.

Don’t take life too seriously. Go with the flow.

Talk about everything, and talk often.

Spend time together as a family. Find a hobby that you can do together.

Take time to go on dates.

Do things around the house that may be things your partner typically takes care of. It will make them happy that you crossed some items off their list.

Bad things happen, but you’ll get through them.

Sometimes they don’t want your advice or opinion – they just want you to listen.

A little spontaneity goes a long way.

Make your spouse your best friend – they should be the person you always run to first!

Encourage and celebrate with your spouse. Let their joys be yours.

You will have times in your marriage when you feel alone, and far apart – fight to come together.

No matter how long you’ve been together, you are never to old to flirt.

Always remember the reason you fell in love.

 

What have you learned in your marriage, and what advice would you give others?

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February 6th, 2012 at 5:00 am

The Perfect Valentines Kit – A Date Kit

Valentines Day is coming up and you may be searching for that perfect gift. As a parent to young children, nothing is more perfect than a date with my Hubby. I’ve talked about it before – the importance of spending some quality time with the person in your life.

We have two problems with dating in my family. First, we let too much time go between dates. We get busy and before you know it, our last date was 4 months ago. This happens way too often around here. The second problem is that sometimes when we go on a date we do the same thing most every time. We go out to dinner and then we run shopping errands. Not very exciting. We are usually home by 9:30pm and are in bed by our regular time. BORING!

So, for Valentines I am trying to spice things up a bit. I am going to pre-plan 12 dates for the next year. The great part is that some will involve spending money while others will be free; some will be at home and others will need a babysitter. They are going to be all types. But they will be set.

Let me walk you through how I did this……

First I selected what the dates will encompass. Along with writing some of our personal favorite things to do I searched one of my favorite dating blogs for some new ideas.

These are some of the ideas I am using:

Comedy Club Date Night- My husband is a huge Star Wars fan so I found some Star Wars Mad Libs for us to use. We’ll watch some videos of our favorite comics and Saturday Night Live clips and end the night with a fun dessert.

Geocaching Date- For this date I am going to find some geocaches located at a picturesque park. I’ll pack a picnic dinner for us to enjoy in between caches.

Restaurant Hopping Date- There are two rules to this date #1 – You can only have ONE part of a meal at any given place. #2 You can’t go to any sit down “leave a tip” type restaurants. (That doesn’t mean you can’t eat in the bar at these restaurants)

This means will we be at a minimum of 3 restaurants (appetizer, entree, and dessert), but depending on the mood could go to as many as we want! Can you say soup, salad, another dessert? Also, going to places you’ve never been, like “mom and pop” type places, and non-chain restaurants will make your night that much more enjoyable. Do a little research online or ask some friends about places they recommend to help you break out of the restaurant chain box.

After I had the dates decided I wrote up a little explanation of each. I stuck the explanation in the envelope and decorated the envelope.  I also coded the envelope so we could identify whether this date was something we could do. For codes I used different $$$ signs to signify how expensive, whether a babysitter was needed, and if it was an outside event or not.

After I give it to him we are going to execute by drawing an envelope at the beginning of each month. This will give some time to pick the specific date and mark it on the calendar, plan some last minute details like where to go and babysitting, plus it will build some anticipation.

I can’t wait to have the fun on our different dates all year long! Do you have any fun date ideas?

Kim Ross also writes at  A Little Bit of This and That ~ The Adventures of a Stay at Home Mom.

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October 3rd, 2011 at 5:00 am

Have you been on a date lately?

I’ve been married for 12 1/2 years. Plus, I started dating my husband 9 years before that. That’s a long time and sometimes life gets in the way of our marriage.

Now that we have kids and a busy life we don’t always take time for each other. In face, we rarely take time for each other.

With our busy schedules between hubby’s work, my work at home, kids activities, school and household chores at the end of the night we usually just wind down by watching some television. There isn’t much quality time with just me and him.

So, after I had two mini-breakdowns this week (both over never-ending laundry and the inability to find sports shirts for the kids activities) I decided a break was needed. But, I know we’ve needed a break for a while. Something for just us. Originally we had a weekend getaway planned, but his work came in the way and the getaway was canceled.

We hadn’t taken time for a “date” since early this summer, so I made this a priority for the past weekend. We didn’t do anything that fancy, just some dinner at one of our favorite spots and a visit to a “Gallery Walk” in our cities downtown area.

Date night is a great refresher for your relationship. It is time for “us” to reconnect as a couple and doesn’t really matter what we do. It’s an important part of our relationship as spouses and our relationship as a family.

Need some date ideas? You don’t always have to leave the house to have a date – its about just taking some time out. Here’s some ideas:

  • After the kids are in bed, how about a picnic dinner and a movie in the living room
  • A game of bowling on the Wii
  • Cook dinner together and dine by candlelight at the kitchen table
  • Have dessert for dinner together
  • Work as a team to conquer a home project. Help fold the laundry or clean the garage. The teamwork is a great way to feel connected as a couple.
  • Hold a snowball or water balloon fight
  • Get some Mad Libs and hang out on the couch making each other laugh.
My recent date has inspired me to make “dating” a weekly occurrence, if all it means is a card game of War. Do you have any great date ideas to share?

Kim Ross also writes at  A Little Bit of This and That ~ The Adventures of a Stay at Home Mom.

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